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Shane Kohler

3 Simple Ways to Meet Quality People


If you've had enough of the dating drama and you know what kind of relationship you really want to have, there's only one logical question to ask:


Where do I meet them?


And this is sometimes the most challenging part of the journey. Like most people, you probably think that meeting quality people feels impossible.


Who has time to meet people?


How do you do it? And where do you go?


It's so awkward.


People on dating apps start to look the same over and over again and your social life mostly consists of the same handful of people, so you don't see much possibility there. It's rare that you have a meaningful connection with someone new, let alone someone you would want to spend your life with.


When you're ready for a deep and meaningful romance and you just want to meet the right person and get on with your life, this final obstacle can feel incredibly frustrating.


We get it and we want to help with this. That's why we're sharing with you our one simple rule that will make it incredibly easy to meet lots of awesome people.


But before we go any further, we need to discuss one very important quality essential to meeting the right people: Passion.




Cultivate Your Passion


Passion is the secret to meeting amazing people. You could be in the perfect place at the perfect time with the perfect person but if you aren't living passionately, it's unlikely that the connection will take place. You won't be open to it.


Your passion is what brings you joy, excitement, enjoyment. The idea is that you are enjoying life, that you are living your life in the most fulfilled way you possibly can. You are regularly accessing the best parts of yourself, you are taking action and putting yourself in environments that make you feel intelligent, talented, brilliant, beautiful.


Your life is joyful. It's full of excitement, mystery, adventure, and magic.


There is of course no right way to do this and there are an infinite number of ways it could potentially look. What's important is that it's authentically you, that you are authentically uplifted, empowered, and free.

Thinking that you will find passion and fulfillment in a relationship rather than focusing on having it now is a backward approach. "Like attracts like" and two people who are seeking fulfillment from each other rather than cultivating it in their lives and then coming together expressing and building on it will self-destruct in a relationship.


To create a passionate and loving relationship, you must first cultivate that in your lifestyle. The person you're looking for is looking for someone who is out there living it. You being that is what will attract them to you.


Cultivate your passion to really start enjoying your life in the best way you can. Fill your time and space with things and people that you Love and uplift you. Learn to feel great about your life and who you are. Then you'll be ready for the next step.



The Rule: Education, Motivation, Inspiration


This is the one simple rule that will make it incredibly easy to meet lots of amazing people. This one rule will eliminate boredom forever and you'll always know where you can meet incredible people.


Education--Learning and growth.


Motivation--Working towards something positive.


Inspiration--Taking action that makes you feel inspired.


Amazing people and mediocre people don't frequent the same environments. The secret to connecting with passionate and authentic people is to put yourself in environments where people are exploring their passions. That's why it's so important that you connect with your own.


Considering education, what is something you would like to learn? What are some things you've always wondered about that spark your curiosity? What is some new information that you could get your hands on that would add to your life, that would make you think and feel more deeply? And what are some learning environments that your ideal person might be in?


Think of all the classes and courses that share information you would love to know. Think about the connections you could make in seeking that information. Think about the fun you could have in learning something new or diving more deeply into things that interest you.


Motivation is about achievement. It's about being in environments that help you accomplish something that really matters to you. It fuels the passion that comes through desire and propels you into being the best version of yourself through accomplishing your goals.


So what are the things that really matter most to you and how do you put yourself in environments that will accelerate your journey toward those things? That is where you will connect with others that are doing the same. Think about the connection you could make with someone who shares your values and is working toward the same things in life that you are.


Inspiration is about taking action that feels inspired. It's about doing things for play. There are no limits to the possibilities but this will often show up in arts and culture, music, theater, travel, nature, and high adrenaline activities.


If you can connect with the things that most inspire you, get really excited about the experiences you can have in creating that inspiration, and then begin acting on it, you will surely connect with other people who are doing the same. Think of how much fun it would be to connect with people who play the way you do.


If you'd like some more specific examples on how to use this rule, we're diving into that in our next free workshop! Register here.



A Few More Thoughts on This


Learning to cultivate your passion is the most important thing you will ever do. When you do that well, a Loving and connected relationship isn't far behind.


The key to all of this is that you have to do it without insistence. You do it simply for the purpose of your own enjoyment. You do what brings you joy.


Don't just go out to a bunch of places to try to meet people. Go to the places that you would naturally go to find your joy and connect with people that are there. Your ideas about trying to make it happen or being frustrated about why it hasn't happened yet are getting in the way. They're making it harder for you to find Love.


Don't do anything because you're trying to meet someone. Do it for the fun of it. When you bring that pressure to it, the situation becomes uncomfortable and awkward. Don't go on a date to get a relationship, go on a date for fun! And if you end up with a relationship, great!


When you are enjoying yourself, your best qualities pour out. By putting yourself in positive environments, those qualities come through more easily.


It will be natural to connect with people in places like that. When you connect with someone, invite them to meet for coffee, not because you're "into" them, but because you authentically want to connect again. It doesn't have to mean anything more than that.


Try to have fun with it and don't take it all so seriously. Don't try to meet "the one," just meet someone. Make a connection today. If you never see them again, that's ok. You shared an authentic connection and you're one step closer.


Do your best to be happy and trust that what you want is on its way. You don't have to force it all into place. Trust that the person who wants to meet you is seeking just as hard for you as you are for them. Your job is to make sure you're at your best when you both meet.




We've often said that dating isn't about meeting someone, it's about being happy and having a thriving social life. It's about living the most fulfilled life that you can every day and continuing to work on it. It's about being in positive environments with great people.


When we take dating too seriously we suffocate the fun and excitement out of it. We beat ourselves up and criticize others. We fear people's judgment and fight for their approval. And all this does is overcomplicate what could be a fun cup of coffee with no attachment.


When you stop looking for a person and start enjoying your life right now, Love will find you when you're not even looking.


If you're ready for a breakthrough experience into the Love and Commitment you deserve, join us for A Crash Course in Love in November. Register now or Click Here to join our next free workshop.


Thanks for reading <3






Thank you so much for enjoying our content! Our greatest joy comes from knowing that people like you are using it to transform their lives and relationships and that the world is becoming a better place because of it.

We know the feeling of being alone, of struggling through what seems like an endless series of dead-end relationships, of waiting for the phone to ring, of being rejected and let down again.


We know what it's like to go to bed alone each night wondering if that will ever change and fearing that it might not.


We know these experiences all too well and that is why we do the work we do. We want you to know that you can find Love, that just the application of these simple tools and practices can make a complete difference in every aspect of your Love life and ultimately lead you to the lifetime partnership you so deeply crave.


You're not in this alone. We're here for you <3


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